Is he just being friendly? Is he flirting? Is he interested? What are men actually looking for in a woman they want to date?
The big question is, “Why are guys interested in some girls over others?”
And the answer has to go beyond just “looks” – although that is an important factor to men.
The real answer has to dive deeper, into what men are actually looking for in a long-term partner (and short-term too!)
Maybe you feel like you don’t know why men are deeply attracted to some women and not to others. It could feel like you’re flying blind, and you don’t know how to get the guy you want interested in you.
Maybe it feels like you keep dating guys who aren’t that interested in you, and you’re looking for the answer of what will make him more passionate and “into” you.
1. He Wants To Be Deeply Attracted To You
I want to address this head on because I want to help you be as effective as possible: men want to be attracted to you and being attractive does have an impact on men.
I realize that some people might get angry when I say that, but I have to say it because I want you to be successful.
More importantly: there’s no reason to get angry… no matter who you are or what you look like this can be a huge opportunity for you.
Here’s exactly how to put your energy towards being the most attractive version of yourself that you can be:
1. Put effort into your wardrobe and wear flattering clothing – clothing that makes you feel good and that you feel sexy in.
2. Focus on feeling good about yourself – a positive attitude is more important to overall attractiveness than a dress size or two.
3. Put effort towards being in shape and looking a way that makes YOU feel happy (not a way that some scummy magazine is telling you to look). This helps you feel great about yourself as well.
2. He Wants To Be Able To Share His Passion With You
Men are desperately searching for someone in the world to share their passion with.
Every guy is deeply interested in some subject – the thing that he “nerds out” about more than any other.
It’s the thing that he talks about that seems like it changes his whole demeanor. Even shy guys have no problem talking about their passion, once you get them going.
Find out what he’s passionate about and ask him about it. You’ll discover that guys who are normally shy, closed off, or withdrawn will gush about the subject they care the most about.
When you’re talking to him about his passion, your goal is to find out why he’s passionate about it.
When you know the answer to that question, you’ll know a whole lot more about him, who he really is and what makes him go.
3. He Wants A Good Listener
Obviously, I’m not saying that you should just listen to him and whatever he says at the expense of expressing yourself – that’s ridiculous.
What I’m sharing are the things that you can do with a guy to make him feel a deep personal connection to you – that will make him want to bring your lives closer together.
Guys will bond with people who they feel that they can share anything with. They don’t bond with someone and THEN open up to them, opening up to you is how a guy bonds.
4. He Wants Someone Who Shares His Goals And Dreams
The best, longest lasting, most passionate connections are between people who are moving in the same direction in life. Who hold the same values. Who want the same things out of life.
Guys are looking for someone who they can count on to back them up – who they know supports them and their direction in life.
That doesn’t mean you don’t have goals – it means your goals align with his and you’re moving towards them together, supporting each other all the way.
If your goal is life partnership and deep love that lasts a lifetime, then this is extremely important.
If your goal is just to hook up (which is totally fine), then this is less important.
5. He Wants A Woman Who Has Dreams And Goals For Herself
I wasn’t kidding when I said #4 isn’t about you putting your goals behind his.
The key part of #4 is that you SHARE his goals and dreams, that means you have goals and dreams for yourself and they align with his as well.
I’m not telling you to drop everything in your life and follow him completely – that’s totally off base. (Plus, it will probably push any guy away).
What I’m saying is that in any relationship you want to last, you have to take some time and find out whether your goals and ambitions in life match.
If they do, great.
If they don’t, it’s going to cause a lot more conflict in your relationship. Everything you do in life is subconsciously about moving closer to your goals – and he’s the same way.
6. He Wants A Woman He’s Compatible With
And vice versa.
A lot of people talk about compatibility but no one really stops to define it.
So here it is: compatibility means being in a relationship with each other feels easy. Effortless. There’s no day to day strain.
Compatibility means that it’s easy to be around each other, and that it feels good to be around each other.
Here’s a simple foolproof test: if it feels like you have to “fight” for your relationship, or it feels like you’re constantly battling to keep your relationship on track – that’s a strong sing you’re not compatible with each other.
read the full article here: https://www.vixendaily.com/love/what-men-really-want-in-a-woman/6/